When my marriage ended almost two years ago, I went online right away for a number of reasons. I wanted to distract myself from the crumbling foundation of my life around me and wanted to meet men to see what was going on 11 years later.
I went on Match.com first and paid my 80 or whatever dollars, loaded a picture, and a created a profile write-up. It felt empowering to be on there. I chatted with a few guys, and then decided to try another site and joined OkCupid. Now I was chatting with more guys and discovering a world I had never known existed, and was learning terms I’d never heard of before.
And behaviours. Whoa. Talk about men behaving badly!
Two months in, in January 2016, I decided to take it seriously, for actual dating now perhaps, to meet men rather than just remaining faceless and chatting only. A few weeks into that, I wrote an article about the breakdown of my marriage and my takeaways from online dating so far, though that crazy journey hadn’t even really begun.
A friend read the article and suggested I turn it into a book. So I did. I planned on doing a year in the life memoir of my online dating experiences and would learn everything I could, and experience as much as I could, so I could report back to other women via my book about what was out there and how it all goes down. And we would see if love had found me after a year.
That book won’t make the light of day. It’s too damn personal. What I did, though, was turn it into a quick and dirty guide to online dating based on my experiences and takeaway so that other women heading into the pond have an idea as to what might hit them while swimming in shark-infested waters.
I’m working on self-publishing that book and will post a buy link on this site when it is ready. Traditional publishing simply takes too damn long.
But why am I qualified? Well, I chatted with hundreds of men over the course of a year and a bit, went on many dates, and so I feel have a really good handle on men and what dating online is like, because… I dated hard and I did it for research lol. 🙂